How I Can Ship Zade After Wade Cheated.
So….this feels really pointless, because I feel like the people that are actually asking this question just want someone to put forward an argument, so that they can pick it apart and spin it so that Wade is awful and everyone should ship Zeorge. But here’s my answer. I don’t talk for the Zade fandom, only myself and I’m not interested in getting in a moral debate here. If what I say isn’t good enough for you, too bad, but I’m not going to lose sleep over it.
The thing about cheating on television, is that your personal experiences shape how you view it. I have never cheated or been cheated on, but there are three events in my life that shaped the way I see cheating. When I was 8, my older sister’s boyfriend cheated on her and she was just devastated. When I saw how upset she was, I couldn’t understand why someone would do that to another person and that it was unforgiveable. So, cheaters in my head were bad bad bad and should never get forgiven. Flash forward about 4 years and my parents were in the middle of a very messy and prolonged divorce, and it came out that they had both cheated on each other - in fact I was the one who discovered my mother was having an affair. I felt personally betrayed and hated both of them for it, I couldn’t understand at the time and it was really difficult for me to reconcile the vision I had of my parents being wonderful human beings who would never ever hurt me and the way I saw evil, dirty cheaters. But was I going to hold it against them forever? No. I love my parents very much and though none of it was ideal, now I don’t even care. Thirdly, when I was 19 my best friend cheated on her boyfriend who I was also quite close with and I was put in quite a difficult position. But I saw how confused, vulnerable and hurt she had been in the first place to get to that position and how hurt and guilty she felt afterwards. So, I supported her, I didn’t judge her, I didn’t get angry. So, what did I learn from all this? People cheat, good people can cheat and you can move on from cheating.
Now, lets talk specifically about Zoe and Wade. Wade cheated and that is a terrible, awful thing to do, I’m not ever going to deny that. But he’s genuinely sorry, he’s not just sorry he got caught, he’s sorry he did it and extremely guilty about what it’s done to Zoe - the woman he loves. If I doubted that he was sorry, or that he loved her, or that he wouldn’t do it again when she gives him a chance, then I wouldn’t still be able to ship them. And I genuinely believe that they can and will be happy together again and I can’t wait to see it. There, that’s how I can still ship the.
